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Tuesday, December 5, 2017

What Can You Do When You’re Pulled in Too Many Directions?



Plan Wisely to Pace Yourself



This time of year is an especially busy one for a lot of us, and we may find ourselves pulled in several directions. Since I own my own business and see coaching clients by phone or in person throughout the year, I need to manage my time so that I can accommodate my clients, especially when holidays may interrupt their normal schedule and mine. 

It’s also the end of my fiscal year, so I need to pull together my records. That will let me know how I’ve done in 2017, as well as prepare the information I have to send into the IRS in January. That’s the preface for getting ready to file both my personal and business taxes in the new year. Whew! It’s a big job, but one that, luckily, I can do in small pieces.

This time of year I’m pulled in a number of personal directions at well. I’m getting ready for Christmas, which will include participating as a host for our neighborhood party (which means not only decorating the house, but also cleaning it from top to bottom and cooking—none of which are my best things). In addition, I’m buying presents for family members, getting together with friends, and sending out Christmas/Holiday cards. 

While all of this seems a bit overwhelming when I list it all, I know that it can be manageable if I plan the things I need to accomplish and the time it will take to accomplish them. 

How do I do that? I group things together to minimize the trips I need to make to the 
store(s). Since I don’t always have a big block of time to work on things, I do a few things at a time, and combine tasks when I can. For instance, I’ll add the lights to the tree during my favorite TV program. I’ll drop things off at the post office on my way to lunch with a friend I don’t see nearly often enough, and I’ll stop at the mall and the Co-op for horse feed before I head back to the office. 

I will make lists of what I’ll need for the neighborhood party and the tasks I need to get done. By putting it down in a list, I keep it from cluttering up my brain. All I’ll have to remember is to keep my list with me everywhere, and remember to look at it. 

It could feel stressful, but it really doesn’t. For one thing, I keep in mind what’s most important about the holidays, and why I’m doing it all. I also cut myself some slack when necessary. I look for shortcuts—I buy a spinach dip and add water chestnuts to it to make it more special; I’ll collaborate with a neighbor so that preparation of snack food doesn’t fall only to me. If necessary, I’ll get up a little bit earlier, or go to bed a little bit later. I’ll ask for help. More importantly, I’ll deep six any perfectionism—it has no place in my life, especially at this time of year. 

I’ll make sure my schedule has time in it for getting essential things done. For me, that has to do with people (including clients, family, and friends); my animals; and keeping organized. The organization piece is for my own sanity—when I’m organized I’m much happier because things flow. When things flow for me, I’m a happy woman. 

How about you? What pulls at you this time of year? What sometimes makes you feel overwhelmed? What can you do differently this year to tame that overwhelm? How can you make this last month of the 2017 a very special month? If you have some tips that you’d like to share, please email them to me at Linda@InnerResourceCenter.com or share them with me on Facebook. I’ll share them with the people I’m in contact with, and maybe we can help each other. After all, isn’t giving something that has a special place in our lives right now?

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and want some help, reach out to me as well. I’m happy to make time for you. After all, people are what are really most important!

(C) 2017 Linda S. Pucci, Ph.D. All rights reserved.

Monday, October 17, 2011

Be Yourself

"You can't base your life on other people's expectations."

~Stevie Wonder 

We've all done it at some point or another--tried to live our lives based on someone else's expectations.  Those people might have been our parents.  Or maybe our peers.  Or a significant other. Most of us have learned the hard way that basing your life on other people's expectations leaves you living someone else's life.  And, just like wearing someone else's shoes, it may not fit very well.  You life needs to be a reflection of you.  It needs to reflect what is important to you, what you are passionate about, what brings you joy (or sorrow).  Each of us is given a life to live, and we deserve to live it to the fullest. 

This week: Take a hard look at how much you are living your life to fit someone else's expectations.  Are you compromising your values to get along? Are you ignoring things you like to do because someone else doesn't feel the same way?  Are you going along to get along?  Are you avoiding long overdue confrontations?  If so, make a decision to be more of yourself.  Do ONE SMALL THING to express something about yourself, regardless of whether or not others approve.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people identify what is most important to them and help them overcome the "need to please." She wants people to live meaningful, purposeful lives and created Discover Your Life's Purpose: 7 Steps to a Life of Meaning & Authenticity, a self help CD/workbook program.  For more information go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .

Monday, January 3, 2011

Keep Your Focus on the Main Thing

"The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing."

~Stephen Covey

The New Year presents an opportunity for us to DREAM BIG and to create what we most want.  But to do that we must keep our focus on what is the "main thing."  What is most important in order to create the life we want?  What must we do to keep focused on the main thing and not be distracted by the bright shiny objects that surround us.  Our lives are full of opportunities and we must decide which of them most suit the outcome we really want.  When you keep the main thing the main thing you can most easily and effectively pursue that outcome.

This week:  Decide what is "the main thing" for you some time period--this month or this quarter or this year.  What do you really want and need in order to create what you most want?  Write it down and post it where you will see it several times during the day.  Keep your focus on this main thing during each day for this week.  At the end of the day, evaluate how well you did.  If you need to do something to keep your focus on the main thing, determine what that is and make adjustments.  At the end of the week, decide if you want to continue this exercise for another week.  How many weeks will it take for you to have made the main thing the main thing?

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people make big changes in their lives.  She specializes in helping people determine what is most important in their lives and to rapidly move beyond self-imposed limitations by using her toolbox of solution-focused techniques.  For more information and to find resources to help you make changes quickly, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .