How Long Are You Willing to Wait?

"I'm sick and tired of feeling this way," she told me. "I've decided I can't keep going like this." Her life wasn't the way she wanted to be. It hadn't been for years. She'd tried a bunch of things, but they hadn't worked, or if they had, they hadn't worked for long.

"I know this will probably take a long time. . ." she said.

"Not really," I replied. "Not if you're ready to get rid of the junk that's standing in your way. These days there are a lot of ways to make changes pretty quickly."

I used to believe the same thing: that change had to be slow and measured by weeks, months and years. But then I got impatient.

Please understand me. I like the people I work with, but there really is no need for us all to grow old together. In fact, the older I've become, the more aware I am of the passing of time and that the time for living will be limited.

I've become focused on SOLUTIONS. Because, what if we didn't have to wait years to create the life we want? What if we didn't have to spend years trying to clean up the things that have caused us problems? What if we could get rid of our baggage and move on?

When I was a therapist, I studied many of the latest and most promising techniques. Ways that could help people move on from trauma, from illness, from circumstances that had scarred them.  I began looking for solutions in the mid '80s. Good heavens, that was 30 years ago!

I've been honing those skills ever since. Creating new methods to help people change their lives by working with them differently. In traditional therapy, clients meet with their therapist or counselor for about an hour. What that means is that just about the time they've begun to uncover something important, it's time to quit. That starting and stopping and starting and stopping from session to session, in my opinion, pretty much ensures that your progress will be slower than it has to be. Because face it, few of us remember exactly where we were a week later. You have to find your place and begin again. I'm not saying you can't make progress that way. I'm saying it's slow going.

Some people like to move slowly. They like to savor the process and understand the nuances of their lives and the events that have happened to them. Sorry. Not me. I'm the impatient sort. I want to dive in and work intensely and then have you move on with your life. Fix what's broken. Find what's not working, take care of it, and go on. 

I'm not a therapist anymore (I retired my psychologist license in December, 2012), so I don't have to use that model that says we meet once a week for an hour. As a personal and business coach, I've created a new model that is faster, more focused and more intensive. If you aren't willing to wait for years to clear out your mental junk, you might find this model fits you better.

The Intensive Personal Breakthrough Session (sometimes called Personal Makeover Sessions) takes you through a process over the course of 4-5 days, working multiple hours together each day. We do intensive preparation before we ever meet, so that we're very clear about what issue or issues we're working on. We do intensive work in person while you're here in East Tennessee. There's often homework. We both work hard, AND you resolve the issues you came to solve. Then I do follow-up with you, meeting once a month by phone for 75 minutes each time and checking in regularly by email to make sure you're maintaining your progress. 

I love this model because I get to watch people transform before my very eyes (which is the coolest thing ever). My clients love it because it gets rid of their old baggage pretty quickly, and much easier than they ever would have anticipated.

I know you may have invested years of your life carrying your baggage around with you. It's been cumbersome, and probably kept you from doing things you'd like to do or achieving goals you wanted to achieve. But just because you've had a problem/issue/challenge for years, doesn't mean you can't get rid of it.

How long are you willing to wait before you let it go? It's really up to you. The first and most important step in the process is deciding you're ready to let it go and to move on with your life. 

When you decide you don't want to keep living like you have been, call me at 865-983-7544 or email me at Linda@InnerResourceCenter.com. We can talk about what will work best for you.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a personal/business coach and trainer who specializes in helping people get over the obstacles that stand in the way of their happiness and success. She specializes in helping her clients get unstuck and get over mindset issues that sabotage their ability to reach their goals. 

Leave the Past Behind

"The farther behind I leave the past, 

the closer I am to forging my own character."

~ Isabelle Eberhardt

When you are stuck in the past, you often stay stuck as the person you were back then, many times determined by what others thought of you.  While all of us have been shaped by the events in our past and how we reacted to them, we DO have the power to change those influences.  The key to any experience, good or bad, is what we have learned from it.  When you take the learning and realize what is positive in it, you are able to let go of any residual negative emotions from the experience. While that doesn't change what happened, it changes its meaning.  That is of utmost importance because it opens up opportunities for you to be the person you can really be.    


This week:  Take some time to think about your past. Set aside that time. Think about what has shaped you, good or bad.   Think about each significant experience and what POSITIVE learning you got from it.  It might be something as simple (and profound) as "I survived" or "They did the best they could" or "I did the best I could."  Take a deep breath as you think about the learning.  Bring that learning forward toward the present as you review each significant event.  When you are back to today, imagine bundling all that positive learning into a bundle and shrinking it down to fit into your pocket.  Know that the learning will always be with you.  Notice how you feel.  Do you feel more like yourself?  Or the self you could be? 


Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people find resources to change their lives in big ways.  She is the creator of the Life Moments Makeover System™, a system for letting go of negative emotions and limiting mindsets quickly and easily.  For more information, go to http://www.InnerResourceCenter.com  .

Change Your Negative Thinking to Change Your Life

"What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds."

~Dr. Wayne Dyer

Many people don't realize that how they think about things helps shape what happens.  They dwell on all the things that could go wrong, they focus on the negatives, and then are dismayed when life keeps giving them lemons.  If you want to change how your life is going, change your thinking.  Focus instead on possibilities, opportunities, and all that is positive. 

This week:  Focus on things that are going in the direction you would like.  They don't have to be perfect, just headed in the right direction. Notice when you think negatively, and immediately change that negative to something positive.  It doesn't have to be "pie in the sky" positive, just add words to make it true.  For example, you might change "I never reach the financial goals I set" to "I haven't reached my financial goal yet, but I"m determined to do it."  Give yourself credit for what you have done so far.  Like any muscle, your brain will get stronger as you stretch it.  Focus on what you want to have happen, and what you are doing to make it so.  You are in charge of your life, and can really begin to see that fact when you change your thinking.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people change negative and limiting beliefs.  She has developed a powerful program to help her clients move beyond negative emotions and limiting beliefs that have been stockpiled from negative past experiences.  Her Life Moments Makeover System-TM allows people to make very significant life changes in 4-5 days.  For more information go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .