You Create Your Life By How You Live It

"Everything you see happening is the consequence of that which you are."

~Dr. David Hawkins

We create our lives by how we live them.  If our lives are filled with drama, it is because we have been living that drama and buying into it.  If you are unhappy and dissatisfied, it may be because you have been focused on that unhappiness and dissatisfaction.  When you begin to change your focus and begin to change your thinking, you can begin to change how you are living, and your life circumstances change as well.

This week: Notice where your focus is.  Are you focused on the negative?  If so, is it translating into how your life is turning out?  What do you really believe about yourself?  If you are focused on all that you are lacking, do you also find that your life is lacking?   Really look at how your life is a reflection of yourself.  If you don't like how your life is going, what do you need to change about yourself?  Identifying it is the first important step.  Once you identify what you would like to change, begin to make a plan for changing it.  Ask for help from others if you need it.  The time to create the life you want is NOW.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people create lives that are congruent with their life's purpose.  She specializes in helping people overcome limiting beliefs that sabotage their happiness and success, often in transformational intensive sessions.  For more information, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ . 

Make Things Happen

"My father instilled in me that if you don't see things happening the way you want them to, you get out there and make them happen."

~ Susan Powter

Many people are good at recognizing when things are not going the way they would like.  They identify all the things that are wrong--in politics, in business, in the economy, in their relationships, in their life.  But too few take action and responsibility for making changes.  If you find yourself complaining about things not happening the way you want them to, get out there and make them happen.

This week:  Identify something that is not going the way you would like, one specific thing.  Now, think about what change you would like to see.  What could YOU personally do to help make that change?  What action could you take?  Brainstorm solutions and write down your ideas.  Then go back and pick ONE thing you can do this week to begin to change the situation.  Although you might think that your action "won't count," recognize that if everybody took some small action, there would begin to be a solution.  Do something, just for this week. 

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and trainer at the Inner Resource Center, LLC.  She is an expert in helping people take actions toward their goals, and at her clients create transformational change quickly.  She specializes in helping people overcome the limiting beliefs that sabotages their success and happiness.  For more information, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .

The Key to Health of Mind and Body Is to Live in the Present

"The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly."

~The Buddha

If you want to live a healthy life, the key is to live in the present moment.  Too many people hang on to negative emotions and limiting beliefs from past experiences and sabotage their health and happiness.  Your experiences are there to teach you and allow you to move on.  There really is not need to hang on to your memories of negative experiences.  Those negative emotions are not necessary for the learning.  Let it go.  Those worries about the future?  They only focus you on those outcomes that you don't want to see happen.  When you focus on anticipating trouble, it doesn't help you prepare; it helps you create that outcome. Let go of the worries and preoccupation with the past and future.  Live in--and ENJOY--the present moment.

This week:   Notice when your thoughts turn to the past.  If you are preoccupied with things that have happened in the past, write them down.  These are issues you need to deal with that your unconscious mind is bringing to your attention.  Ask yourself: "What did I learn from that experience?"  Once you have identified the learning, imagine allowing the emotions you felt about that past experience to float out into outer space, like a balloon you are releasing. 

Notice when your thoughts turn to worries about the future.  Write them down.  Now focus on the outcome you would LIKE to have happen.  Think about that outcome at least 5 times during the next 12 hours.  Imagine that you have already achieved that positive outcome. Notice if the anxiety disappears when you focus on the outcome you want.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people let go of negative emotions and limiting beliefs that block their happiness and move quickly beyond those experiences.  She specializes in helping her clients let go of "emotional clutter," which is what she calls it.  For more information about her programs, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ or http://www.emotionalclutter.com/ for a download of her e-book.   

Let Your Experiences Transform You

Everything in your life is there as a vehicle for your transformation. Use it!"

~ Ram Dass

All the experiences we have in our lives--whether positive or negative--contribute to our learning of important lessons. Those lessons tell us about ourselves and about others. Those lessons are not about judging ourselves or others, but provide us with a vehicle to transform our lives. When we get the positive learning from any of the experiences in our lives, we are able to let go of negative emotions and limiting beliefs which have sabotaged our success and happiness. The key is beginning to use the learning in all your life's experiences to move you forward and transform your self and your life.

This week: Notice the learning in each of the experiences you have this week, whether they are positive or negative. Ask yourself if those experiences and that learning could bring about opportunities for transformation. What would have to happen for you to be able to transform yourself from that experience. Journal about these experiences and the opportunities for transformation they could/do provide.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people find the resources to transform their lives. She is CEO of the Inner Resource Center, LLC and dedicated to helping people find the resources to move forward in their lives toward greater happiness and success. She specializes in helping people let go of "emotional clutter"--those negative emotions and limiting beliefs that sabotage their success. For more information go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ or http://www.emotionalclutter.com/

Let Go of Phony and Be Yourself

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

~Dr. Suess

In other words, be yourself. Be authentic. When you are being yourself, others know you are authentic. They can accept for who you are, or not. The point is that when you act in an authentic way, people who do accept you are accepting the "real" you, instead of someone you are pretending to be. The problem with pretending is that people can see through the phoniness. Even if they buy your phony routine, ultimately you won't be able to maintain it. The real you will shine through at some point or another. And if someone has believed you to be someone else, they end up feeling betrayed and angry.

This week: Experiment with being yourself. Let your guard down and express your authentic self in at least two different settings. Notice what happens. Do you have more fun? Is there less pressure? How do others accept you? Notice how good it feels when someone accepts you for your "real self."

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people reach their goals and overcome the obstacles that block their dreams. Sometimes those obstacles are the ways we sabotage ourselves, pretending to be someone we are not. For more information about her services and some free resources, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .