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Showing posts with label peace. Show all posts
Showing posts with label peace. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 20, 2017

Amidst the Stress and Chaos of the Holiday Season--Find Your Silent Night




The intense traffic. The lights and blowup figures. The crush of people shopping, or attending concerts or choral presentations. Busy, hectic schedules. Plenty to do. Wrapping gifts. Baking. Decorating your house. Attending parties. Eating too much sugar.
This time of year is one of activity and stress, as we prepare for a holiday period that tends to stretch from late November all the way through the month of December. Sometimes we nearly drop from exhaustion. Sometimes we fight colds and other illnesses that attack because of exposure to lots of people with various types of illnesses and depleted immune systems. 

No matter how good you are at organizing your time and parceling your energy, this time of year can be challenging. Often, it’s a period we look forward to, but that can overwhelm us if we aren’t careful.

Sometimes physical ailments and illnesses make us have to change our plans. Or weather challenges disrupt travel plans. No matter how much you’ve looked forward to the events that crowd the calendar this time of year, you may have to make other arrangements when something comes along that makes change necessary. 

I remember being leveled as a teenager for three weeks─a time when I was unable to even get out of bed, let along sing in our choir’s concert, attend the big 9th grade dance, or do my Christmas shopping. Sometimes, the holiday season has to pass you by, like it did me that year.

When chaos and stress reign over your life because of the demands on your time, the sheer number of events on your calendar, or the demands those you love put on you because they want you to share the holiday with them, it is important to find a way to protect yourself.
During those times, you may need some time of peace. Some time when you can get away from the hustle and bustle and replenish your energy. This is especially true if you’re an introvert. It isn’t that introverts don’t like people, or don’t want to be around them. It’s that we need to have time alone to replenish our energy. While extroverts replenish themselves around people, introverts replenish alone.

This time of the year, it’s helpful to search out some a Silent Night. Amidst the hustle and bustle, and the noise of holiday preparations and celebrations, it’s important to be able to find time when you can lose yourself in silence. The silence can take many forms:

  • It can be the silence of prayer or meditation
  • It can be the sound of snow falling softly
  • It can be the comforting sound of horses eating grain in the shelter of a barn
  • It can be a hike along a trail in the mountains
  • IT can be sitting by a fire, staring at the flames, and listening to the soft sounds of crackling and whooshing
  • It can be standing at the door to your house or apartment, staring up at the stars that light the clear winter night·  

No matter what your “Silent Night” sounds like or how you create it, it can offer you a respite from the stress and noise of holiday preparations. It provides you with a balance that makes the enjoyment of this season possible and far less stressful.

The best way to make this time of year truly a celebration and a special time you can enjoy is by balancing it with the relaxation, the calm, the peace, and the silence we can each find if we take the time and energy to bother.

It’s definitely worth it. Make your holiday one you can actually enjoy. Create your own strategies for including a Silent Night in your hectic schedule. Regularly. When January comes, you’ll be extra glad you did.

If you want ideas for doing this, feel free to email me at Linda@InnerResourceCenter.com or call me at 865-983-7544 and I’ll help you brainstorm ideas. One of the things that makes the holiday special for me is to help people move through them with more joy and less stress. Reach out. I’m here, ready to help.

Warmest wishes for a wonderful, peaceful holiday,

Linda

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

What Are You Tolerating?



It Will Sap Your Energy and Interfere With Your Life

I have a sign in my office that says “You Get What You Tolerate.” It’s there to remind my clients (and me!) that when we tolerate things we don’t like, we allow them in our lives. That is usually not such a good thing.

What is a toleration? It can be anything that bugs you–something you are putting up with that you really wouldn’t HAVE to. A toleration becomes a compromise you talk yourself into making. Sometimes it is putting up with disrespect from a spouse, boyfriend, parent or family member. Sometimes it is something in your surroundings that bothers you, but you don’t do anything to change. Maybe it is something about your job or the people you work with.

Most of us tolerate a lot. Our tolerations can be big things or small things, but they all tend to sap our energy, block our happiness, and interfere with us living lives that are completely satisfying.  Think about the things in your life that you are tolerating. Make a list of things at home, at your job, in your relationships that you are putting up with. Think about what life could be like if you didn’t have to cope with them. Would you have more energy? Be happier? Be more creative and productive? Feel more at peace? Have a better life?

Why do we tolerate things we don’t have to? The answer varies, but often has to do with wanting to avoid handling things that are "difficult.” We don’t want to make waves, we don’t want to have to confront someone, or we’re afraid that we won’t be able to get rid of what we are tolerating.  Sometimes we are afraid of the changes that might happen as a result. And sometimes, we don’t believe that we deserve to have it better.

There may even be payoffs for having the toleration. For example, you may stay in a job you hate because of the financial security it provides. Or, you may feel noble about carrying the burden of the things you tolerate. It is important to look at the “payoffs” for you. The more you understand WHY you are tolerating things, the easier it will be to make a plan to get rid of them.

So here's the place to start. Publicly announce ONE THING you've been tolerating.  What are you going to do about it? Is there a payoff for hanging on to it? You can announce it in the comments section below, or on my Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/linda.pucci

Take steps NOW to make the requests or take the actions to eliminate the things you are tolerating. DO IT TODAY!

P.S.   Keep in mind that you don’t have to be overbearing or aggressive–but you do have a right to try to change the things you can. Sometimes this may mean compromising, but let people know what you want first. Don’t assume that you will fail, or that you don’t deserve to be toleration-free!

If you need help with this, feel free to call me (Linda Pucci) at 865-983-7544 or email me at Linda@InnerResourceCenter.com. We can set up time to talk about what you are tolerating and come up with a plan for getting them out of your way. No charge for this 30 minute phone session. I want to see you move ahead and this is one thing that may really help.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Emptying Your Mind Creates Space for Peace

"A primary method for gaining a mind full of 
peace is to practice emptying the mind."


~Napoleon Hill

We are often so caught up with working and doing things that we ignore peace.  We might crave it, but we don't do anything to pursue it or encourage it.  For many of us, thoughts chase us throughout the day, even into the night.  We have trouble turning our mind off, so we have trouble getting sleep.  We find it difficult to relax because we are always thinking of everything we have to do.  At least once a day, we need to empty our minds to create space for peace.  Turn off the thoughts and turn your mind inward, allowing your thoughts to drift away.  Breathe.  Keep breathing.  Allow your muscles to relax and stay in the present moment.  Invite peace into your life.  And watch your life change in positive ways.

This week: Everyday take at least 15 minutes to empty your mind.  Breathe deeply from your belly and sigh when you exhale.  Allow the tension to leave your shoulders and neck.  Picture your mind emptying out.  Imagine your thoughts taking flight and disappearing into the sky above you.  (Don't worry, you'll be able to get them back).  Imagine washing your mind with your favorite color.  Bathe your mind in calming light and energy.  Invite peace into your mind to fill the space that is now there.  Relax and enjoy.  Do this at least once a day for a full week.  Notice how you feel at the end of the week.  Isn't peace worth at least 15 minutes of your day?

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people overcome the mindset limitations that often block success and happiness.  A mindset limitation may be a belief that "I can't turn off my mind" or that "I need to pay attention to everything so that I don't forget something."  Wouldn't it be nice to let that stuff go?  For more information about the tools Linda uses, go to http://www.InnerResourceCenter.com .  Discover the resources to transform your life... 

Sunday, June 21, 2009

Learn to Use the Power of Your Mind to Heal

"We can tap our own healing forces by learning to use the power the mind has over the body. Healing is part of self-realization, a process of becoming whole and healthy."


~Dr. Gerald Epstein

I've watched this process occur as my husband has healed from his burns. Sometimes determination is one of the greatest healers. And when you realize that your mind can help heal you, it empowers you to live fully.
Yes, you have to actually take some action to make it happen, but your mind holds the key. When you activate your own healing energy and direct it to heal you, you become powerful in a humble way. You are working with your own energy to manifest an outcome with your physical body, and your mind is intimately intertwined in this process.

This week: Experiment with using your own healing energy in some area of your life. Imagine yourself sending your breath into some place of dis-ease or pain. Allow your mind to quiet, and to allow peace to wash over you. Settle on down into a place in your mind of safety and relaxation. Notice what happens in your body--even if it is for only a moment. Practice increasing the length of time you feel it by relaxing even more. Be one with the universe. Be one with the energy that surrounds you. Love yourself. So be it.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people realize their own internal and external healing resources. She specializes in getting rid of "emotional clutter"--those negative emotions and limiting beliefs that keep us STUCK. For more information, go to her website at http://www.InnerResourceCenter.com

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Find Your Inner Peace

"Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence."

~from Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

The beginning lines of this poem always remind me to slow down, to take a moment to find peace within myself. In our busy lives, it is especially important to take a break from the noise and the haste. It is important to give yourself the time and space necessary to go inside yourself and reconnect with your inner peace. For it is from this inner peace that we are able to create solutions to our life's challenges, and connect with that wise part of ourselves that knows what we need most to be happy and successful.
This week: Take just 10 minutes every day somewhere peaceful. Turn off the T.V., radio and iPod. Shut the door on interruptions. Breathe deeply and connect with your inner peace. Although this may seem difficult, do it anyway. Notice what a moment's peace can do to replenish your spirit.
Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and trainer at Inner Resource Center, LLC in Maryville, TN. She is committed to helping people overcome the obstacles to their success and happiness, and to create lives of meaning and authenticity. For more information or free personal growth resources, go to http://www.InnerResourceCenter.com .