To Encourage Others to Be Their Best, Walk the Walk

"You get the best out of others when you get the best out of yourself."

~Harvey Firestone

One of the best ways to encourage others to be their best, is to model excellence for them. When you set a standard for excellence, then work to achieve it yourself, you can teach people by your example.  You can model how to overcome obstacles.  You can show others how to maintain motivation.  You can show them how to overcome adversity or those curve balls that life sometimes throws.  The best leaders lead by example.  If there are specific things you want others to do, make sure you are demonstrating how to do them.  We listen and learn from those who "walk the walk."

This week:  Think of some specific person you want to encourage to be their best.  It might be an employee, friend, child or parent.  How can you model "being your best" for them?  What skills do you have that you might share with them?  What can you demonstrate to them by how you are living your life?  If you want them to be their best, are you striving for that yourself.  Really look at it honestly.  Make adjustments if you need to.  This is one you may need to practice for a bit longer than one week, but the results will be well worth it!

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and trainer at the Inner Resource Center, LLC.  She specializes in helping people overcome their limitations and the ways they sabotage their success and happiness using the skills she has developed from over 30 years of experience.  For more information to become your best, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .

Want Success? Model Someone Who Has Achieved It

“That some achieve great success, is proof to all that others can achieve it as well.”

~Abraham Lincoln

Being successful isn't magic.  It doesn't require special talents, gifts or capabilities, although they can certainly be helpful resources.  If you want to be successful, model a successful person.  Study how they approach life.  What do they think?  How do they approach problems and challenges?   How do they hold themselves physically?  What beliefs do they have?  What emotions do they express?  How do they show their confidence.  Model that.  When you behave as successful people do, you begin to adopt valuable attitudes and approaches that will serve you well as you move toward your own success.

This week:  Identify someone you know or know of who you deem as successful.  Now, think about how they demonstrate their success.  How do they behave?  What sorts of things do they believe about themselves and about the world?  Find out as much as you can about how they do what they do.  Write it down.  If you can, ask them questions about it.  If you don't know them personally, read interviews they have done, or study their life story.  What is it that has put them on this path to success?  What things do THEY do that you could adopt?  Experiment with modelling some of their behavior, beliefs or attitudes and notice what that is like.  Modelling others' success is an easy way to get yourself moving along that path to success as well.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and trainer.  She specializes in helping people make rapid changes in their lives so that they can live happier and more successful lives.  Her business, Inner Resource Center, LLC helps connect people with the resources they need to transform their lives.  For more information about her and her programs, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .  

Change Yourself to Change the World

"Be changed and the world around you begins to change."

~Dr. Gerald Epstein

When you want change in some part of your life, change how you act and react. This works for two reasons. First, it models the change you want to see in the world or those around you. Second, it changes YOUR behavior and attitude, and clears the way for others to change as well.

This week: First, identify a change you'd like to see in some person or area in your life. Next, change your reaction to them. If you have been quietly accepting their bad behavior, change that approach and speak out. If you have been reacting negatively, change your approach to something more positive. Finally, notice what happens. When you change your behavior or attitudes, it opens the door for changes in others. The changes may be small at first, but you can always build on them.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people discover resources to transform their lives. She specializes in helping people let go of "emotional clutter" --those negative emotions and limiting beliefs that block happiness and success. For more information about how she does this, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/