"You can't base your life on other people's expectations."
We've all done it at some point or another--tried to live our lives based on someone else's expectations. Those people might have been our parents. Or maybe our peers. Or a significant other. Most of us have learned the hard way that basing your life on other people's expectations leaves you living someone else's life. And, just like wearing someone else's shoes, it may not fit very well. You life needs to be a reflection of you. It needs to reflect what is important to you, what you are passionate about, what brings you joy (or sorrow). Each of us is given a life to live, and we deserve to live it to the fullest.
This week: Take a hard look at how much you are living your life to fit someone else's expectations. Are you compromising your values to get along? Are you ignoring things you like to do because someone else doesn't feel the same way? Are you going along to get along? Are you avoiding long overdue confrontations? If so, make a decision to be more of yourself. Do ONE SMALL THING to express something about yourself, regardless of whether or not others approve.
Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people identify what is most important to them and help them overcome the "need to please." She wants people to live meaningful, purposeful lives and created Discover Your Life's Purpose: 7 Steps to a Life of Meaning & Authenticity, a self help CD/workbook program. For more information go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .