"I don't know what that problem is," she told me.
"I've been working really hard, but I can't ever seem to reach the success
I've been chasing. There must be something wrong with me."
It's a common complaint I hear in many different forms:
- "I'm stuck."
- "No matter what I do, it doesn't seem to work."
- "Maybe I'm not cut out for this."
- "I'm working as hard as I can, but I can't seem to get there."
All of these complaints have mindset at their core. It isn't that you aren't working hard enough.
Success doesn't have to be so elusive. At the core of all these problems is the
thoughts, feelings, beliefs, attitudes and values that underlie everything you
do. Mindset is the voice in your head
that tells you "I can't..."
It's the part that tells you "I don't deserve..." It is at the core of your self-doubt and lack
of confidence.
Usually these thoughts, feelings, beliefs, attitudes and
values have their foundations in events from your past. They are the reactions
to events in your life that didn't turn out the way you wanted them to. As a result you jumped to conclusions about
what the problem was. You formed beliefs
that began to limit you, and you found "proof" that you were right in
your conclusions by doing what we all do when we form a belief. We ignore
evidence to the contrary. We distort the evidence to "prove" we were
right all along. And we generalize from
situations where the belief may be true to all situations or every single time.
Then to make it even more complicated, the beliefs,
thoughts, feelings, attitudes and values fall out of our awareness and become
unconscious. We don't even realize these
mindset saboteurs are chugging away under the surface messing everything
up.
As amazing as it may seem, 90% of your success or failure
are the result of mindset issues.
Specifically, it's those mindset limitations you've unconsciously set
into motion. It is vitally important to address your mindset issues. If
you don't you'll continue to struggle.
The top 5 reasons to address your mindset limitations are
1. To get rid of obstacles that block your
goals--especially obstacles that are self-imposed.
Your mindset limitations stop you
just as completely as if you were running head-first into a brick wall.
2. To get off the roller-coaster and
create CONSISTENT results.
Maybe you've had some success, but
you can't seem to duplicate it and your ups and downs are affecting your
confidence.
3. To conquer your fears.
No matter if your fears are of a
fear of failure, a fear of success, a fear of being noticed, a fear of
rejection, fear plays a huge role in taking the steps you need to in order to
be successful. If you are fearful, you'll avoid doing the things you need to do
to succeed.
4. To get rid of self-doubt.
Self doubt
often keeps you stuck. You lack the confidence to get out there and do what you
need to in order to achieve your goals. Self-doubt is composed of "what
if's" and most of them are
catastrophic. If you can get out of your own way, you are likely to discover that you are more capable then
you thought. You really CAN do those
things you didn't think you could.
5. To
get rid of limiting beliefs that hurt your confidence and self-esteem.
Those may be
beliefs like "I'm not worthy," or "I have to be perfect,"
or "I'm not good enough." If
you've been thinking there's something wrong with you, there is likely a limiting belief that is feeding it.
The good news is that mindset limitations can be resolved.
The bad news is that you can't just decide to believe or think something more
helpful. Because mindset issues tend to lurk in the unconscious, you can't
consciously change them--you have to change them with unconscious methods. Think about it--if you chant "There are
no weeds in my garden; there are no weeds in my garden; there are no weeds in
my garden," a hundred times, what happens? The weeds still
take over your garden. You have to DO something, and it has to address the weed's
roots.
Want to know more? Contact me, Linda Pucci at Linda@InnerResourceCenter.com to
schedule time to talk over the phone about your mindset limitations and what
you can do about it. There are lots of
techniques and methods that work. When you are ready to address your mindset, email me and we'll talk about what
will work best for you.
Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a personal and business coach and an expert in helping clients resolve mindset issues that interfere with their success and happiness. For more information go to http://www.InnerResourceCenter.com to learn about her services.
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