What If You Were in Charge of Creating Your Experiences?

"Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose

to do with them is up to you."

~Richard Bach

When you have conflict in your life or in your relationships, look for the message about what you can learn.  Any challenge we face gives us an opportunity.  It gives us the opportunity to learn important life lessons, and to develop greater understanding and character.   The key is to move outside of the role of victim--to whom things happen TO--and move into the understanding that we create our own lives and the meaning our experiences hold for us.  When you embrace the idea that you have drawn the events to you in order to use them for a greater good, it frees you to learn from them.  By shifting your perspective you enable yourself to be empowered by your experiences, rather than being at their mercy.

This week:  Take a look at some event, person or area of your life where you have felt controlled, victimized, or at someone else's mercy.  Imagine that in a meeting long before you were born, you chose to line up these experiences so that you could learn something important.  Ask yourself what is it that you can learn from this?  Write down as many learnings as you can think of.  Now look for the learnings that are positive and enhance your life.  Have you learned about love from having it missing in your childhood?  Have you learned about the importance of tenderness from being abused?  Have you developed some gifts you now have to share with the world because of the experiences you have had in your life?  How can you use this learning for your greater good and the greater good of others. 

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people get rid of "mental clutter"--those negative emotions and limiting beliefs formed from past negative experiences.  She specializes in helping people uncover the positive learnings from such experiences so that they can be empowered to live with greater meaning.  For more information go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/