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Monday, August 15, 2011

What Does Your Inner Voice Say?

"The loudest and most influential voice you hear is
your own inner voice, your self critic. 
It can work for you or against  you, 
depending on the messages you allow."

~Keith Harrell

We all have an internal critic inside commenting on our thoughts, behavior and emotions.  Sometimes we call it our "conscience" as when it warns us against doing something wrong.  Sometimes it is the voice of a dissatisfied parent or someone else significant from our past.  Sometimes it is our own voice, judging us.  If you are a perfectionist, that inner voice will NEVER be satisfied.  If you instruct your inner voice to give you credit for doing something that is difficult for you, or for making the effort, you will encourage yourself to try harder and do better with your next effort.  If your inner voice is always critical, you'll find yourself resisting doing things you might succeed at.  When all you get is critical, you'll find yourself giving up.  You might even begin to believe that you "aren't good enough" or that you "don't know enough."  Tame that inner voice so that it works with you instead of against you.

This week:   Pay attention to your "inner voice."  With each message, evaluate "Is this true?"  You may discover that if you are truthful you will recognize that you are too hard of yourself.  Would you talk this way to a child?  Would you talk this way to your spouse?  Would you talk with way to an employee?  If not, why are you being so critical of yourself?  Ask yourself "What is the best way to get the best performance?"  At least ONCE during the week, modify that inner voice to be supportive rather than critical.  Pay attention to the difference--which way brings better results?

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people overcome limitations to their success and happiness.  She finds that many people carry around a lot of "mental clutter"--those negative emotions and limiting beliefs that block their success.  If your inner voice is too critical, find out how a Personal Breakthrough Intensive Session can change that.  For more information, go to http://www.InnerResourceCenter.com .


Mary Ellen said...

Great tip Linda. I will be listening to my inner voice this week and make sure that it is supportive and not critical. Thank you.

Tiffany deSilva said...

It's interesting that we say certain things to ourselves that we wouldn't say to anyone else. I've never looked at negative self-talk from that perspective before. Thank you, Linda.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Linda. Reading your post reminded me of a client I worked with a few years ago. In our work together, we mutually agreed that we were going to be sure his inner voice was on his side. Thanks again for your challenge. There are plenty of times I need to be sure my own voice is on my side!

Kristina said...

I love this challenge. It's amazing what I allow myself to say to/about me. Never would I allow someone to talk to me that way, so why do I permit it from my own inner voice. Thanks for the reminder to change our inner voice to be positive.