Confront Your Fears

"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek."

~ Joseph Campbell

It is so true that when we confront our fears, we discover the greatest treasures.  Often we hold ourselves back because of our fears.  When you give in to your fear, you are allowing yourself to be deprived of the treasure you most seek.  Most of us create fear around the things that are more important and valuable to us.  We are afraid of intimacy; we are afraid of failure; we fear loss of love; we fear being exposed as a fraud.  When you confront those fears, you are able to move forward and to uncover the treasure that has been buried from your because of your fear.  The relief is palpable and well worth it.  Your treasure is worth confronting those fears.

This week:  Give a name to that cave where your fear resides.  What treasure could you have if you conquered that fear?  Greater freedom?  Greater success?  Love?  Joy?  Peace?  Now sit down with a piece of paper.  Ask yourself "What purpose does my fear serve?" and listen for the answer from inside, where your subconscious mind resides.  Then ask yourself "What would I need to do, what would I need to have, or what would I need to know in order to let it go?  Why do I think I need to be fearful?"  Write down all the ideas that show up.  You are beginning to create a plan for letting go of your fear. Pick ONE idea to follow.  Notice if your fear dissipates a little. Keep breathing.   If you want more help with this, call or email me.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people get rid of negative emotions and limiting mindsets formed from their past negative experiences.  She has more than 32 years helping people change, and has the tools to teach you how to make those changes quickly.  For more information, go to http://www.InnerResourceCenter.com .

You Have to Choose

"You are doomed to make choices. This is life's greatest paradox."

~Dr. Wayne Dyer

Even when we postpone decisions, we are deciding.  Sometimes not deciding becomes a decision in its own right. No matter what, we MUST make choices in our lives.  We have so many opportunities, but at some point we must make a choice and restrict those opportunities.  It is unavoidable, and trying to keep from "losing" opportunities ensures that you will indeed lose them.You must make choices, and worrying about being "wrong" keeps you stuck.  Set your foot down on the path that is best for you and move forward.

This week:  Ask yourself: "Are there decisions I've been avoiding?  Are there choices I'm postponing?   Am I afraid of being wrong?"  Write down what you have been avoiding, and really examine honestly if fear of making mistakes with your choices has been keeping you from moving forward.  If so, know that the fear is a part of a limiting mindset.  It keeps you from taking a chance and making choices.  And by doing that it limits your ability to take advantage of any opportunities.  The key is being able to trust yourself enough and know that each decision takes you on a journey, and on each journey there are many lessons and much to see.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people overcome limiting mindsets. She utilizes a variety of tools to help people make changes rapidly so that they can move on.  If you want more information about how she can help you and tools to help you when you are stuck, go to http://www.InnerResourceCenter.com .  

Ask for What You Want

"The winds of grace blow all the time. All we need do is set our sails."

~ Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa

Sometimes we sit and wait for good things to happen, and sometimes we are disappointed that we are not getting what we had hoped for.  At the same time, in order to get what you want, you need to declare it--you need to say what you want and be ready to receive it.  Once you declare your intention, you "set the sails" toward making it happen.

This week:  If there is something you would like, state it as an intention.  Come right out and say "I want _______."  Tell someone "I'm going to do what I need to do to get ___________."  Breathe a deep breath into that intention.  Enrich it with your breath and energy.  Feel that desire and intention throughout your whole body.  Notice if there is any ambivalence.  If there is, try changing your words until you can say them without any resistance.  Now notice what happens.  At the end of the week notice if you are any closer to achieving that intention. 

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people achieve goals they had not thought possible using her solution focused methods.  She specializes in helping people get unstuck from the negative emotions, limiting beliefs and other mindset problems so that they can achieve their highest dreams. 

Take Your Own Life's Journey

"No one saves us but outselves.  No one can and no one may.  We ourselves must walk the path."

~Buddha

People often look outside themselves for something or someone to save them or change their situation.  While it is fine to get information or assistance, the decision of what to do and how to do it remains with you.  It is ultimately your journey in this life and no one else can take it for you.  Pretending you are not responsible for your life keeps you stuck waiting for a rescuer that cannot save you.  It keeps you a victim.  To save yourself you have to take your own action.

This week:  Look at your life honestly.  Are you waiting for someone else to tell you what to do?  Are you waiting for someone or something to happen to allow you to move forward?  If so, look inside.  Challenge yourself.  Ask yourself if you are hoping someone else will do the hard work for you?  Are you hoping someone else can/will save you?  If so, make a decision that you can and will do it yourself.  Find one small thing you can do that will orient you toward solving your problem.  It doesn't have to be big.  Relegate others to being your support or your consultants, but stop expecting them to fix things for you.  It is your path to walk and you CAN do it! 

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people find their Inner Resources.  She knows that people can achieve anything if they have the right tools and she is committed to helping you find what will work for you.  She works with people in Personal Breakthrough Intensive Sessions in order to help them transform their lives quickly and relatively easily with her solution focused approach.  For more information, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .   

Change Your Thoughts and Beliefs to Change Your Perception of the World

"Every thought you have makes up some segment of the world you see. It is with your thoughts, then, that we must work, if your perception of the world is to be changed."

~A Course in Miracles

Our thoughts are very powerful.  We each view the world in terms of our thoughts, feelings and perceptions, which have been based upon our experiences in life.  We act as if our thoughts are true, when, in fact, they may be distortions filtered through our experiences.  If the world is not as you would like it to be, and if your life is not the way you would like it to be, you first need to examine your thoughts, your beliefs and your feelings.  You can change your perceptions if you choose, but you need to be willing to look at what you think and believe. 

This week:  Challenge yourself to examine your thoughts and beliefs. Are there things you think or believe that limit you?  Write these down.  You don't have to change them right now, but understand clearly how they limit your success and happiness.  What would you be able to do if you thought or believed something different?  If this is too difficult to consider, look at how the beliefs and thoughts others have limit them.  It is often easier to see limitations in others than in ourselves.  Notice how the way people think impacts their perceptions of the world and their experiences.  This week, identify ONE limiting belief or thought that you would like to change.  Write it down.  Every time it comes up, challenge it.  Ask yourself, "Is this really true?"  Ask yourself, "What would I need to believe instead that would empower me?" 

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people change limiting beliefs quickly and easily with her solution-focused techniques.  Her business, the Inner Resource Center, LLC helps people find the best resources to help them transform their lives and move forward toward greater success, meaning and happiness.  For more information, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ or http://www.emotionalclutter.com/ 

Be Willing to Do and Dare

"The person who gets the farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore."

~ Dale Carnegie

If you are looking for a "sure thing," you are likely to miss out on your dreams and the possibilities life has to offer you.  In order to grab what you want from your life, you need to be willing to take action--to do--as well as to take a chance--to dare.  There is no way of controlling everything, and in order to move forward, you often must leave the comfort of where you are.  You have to be willing to let go the sure thing and the comfort it offers and be willing to take that leap of faith that you can do what needs to be done to get you what you want in your life.  Taking chances and taking action are the only way to move yourself forward.

This week:  Examine your current situation.  Are you moving forward the way you would like to?  Is something holding you back?  Evaluate whether you are taking the actions necessary to get you where you really want to go in your life.  Are you having trouble taking the chances you need to?  Are you hoping that "life the way you want it" will be a sure thing?  If you are stuck hoping for a sure thing, determine what sorts of risks you will need to be able to take in order to move forward.  What needs to happen for you to be willing to "do and dare?"  Once you have figured this out, decide if you are willing to do what is necessary.  You don't have to do it yet, but begin to figure out ways to take SMALL STEPS to more yourself forward.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people overcome the obstacles to their success and happiness.  She knows that people can jump in all at once or ease themselves in one step at a time and can help you determine what method will work best for you.  For more information about her programs and services, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .

Notice the Value in Those Around You

"We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch."

~e. e. cummings

We all need to believe in our own value, and although we can do much to acknowledge our own value to ourselves, when another person acknowledges our value, it has special meaning.  Knowing that someone else notices that we are valuable, worthy and deserving gives us a special gift--the recognition that someone else notices what we have to offer. 

This week:  Think about who in your life has acknowledged your value and worthiness.  Who has recognized that specialness you hold inside?  Who recognizes what you have to offer the world?  How has this helped you believe in yourself?  How do you do this for others?  Think about revealing to those you know that inside them you see something valuable, worth listening to, worthy of your trust and sacred to your trust.  Notice how it feels to give this gift to others.  Pay attention to opportunities to confirm what you notice in others and how they confirm what they notice in you. 

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people develop their own inner resources.  She knows the importance of self esteem and how to nurture its development in self and others.  For more information about the programs she offers, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .