Moving Toward Your Goals Despite "Failures"

"Success is going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.”

~Winston Churchill

Face it.  When you try to accomplish things, there will inevitably be "failures."  Accomplishing goals takes effort and enthusiasm to keep going when things are not going well.  That enthusiasm serves as motivation.  It allows you to take the so-called "failure" and utilize it as feedback.  When you are pursuing your goals, there may be obstacles and set-backs.  But you can count yourself successful when you keep moving forward--finding ways around those obstacles, and keeping your enthusiasm despite those set-backs. 

This week:  Think about a goal you have achieved in your life--despite the set-backs and obstacles.  Think back on the obstacles you overcame and how you did it.  What resources did you use?  What support did you need to keep going?  How can you use this information the next time you face obstacles in pursuing your goal? 

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people overcome the obstacles to their goals.  She uses her 30 plus years of experience and knowledge of solution focused techniques to support her clients in creating satisfying, meaningful, magnificent lives.  For more information about her or the services she provides, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/

Take Steps to Be the Person You Might Have Been--and Can Be

"It is never too late to be who you might have been."

~George Eliot

If you have been waiting to be the person you were intended to be, wait no longer. Waiting for circumstances to be "just right" to allow you to pursue your dream, find your life's purpose or realize your potential simply ensures that you postpone the meaning that your life could express.

This week: Sit down with a piece of paper. Think about what you've been postponing. Have you wanted a different career, relationship or life? What is missing? What blocks you from being all you can be? Imagine what you could be if you knew you could not fail. Think about what you need to get there. If there are obstacles, think about what resources you have that could help you achieve that life of greater meaning. Ask for help if you need it.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people reach their dreams using her solution focused approach. She has created several programs to assist her clients in discovering their life's purpose, reach their goals, and overcome the obstacles to their dreams. For more information, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ . Find free resources to be who you are really capable of being.

Let Go of Phony and Be Yourself

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

~Dr. Suess

In other words, be yourself. Be authentic. When you are being yourself, others know you are authentic. They can accept for who you are, or not. The point is that when you act in an authentic way, people who do accept you are accepting the "real" you, instead of someone you are pretending to be. The problem with pretending is that people can see through the phoniness. Even if they buy your phony routine, ultimately you won't be able to maintain it. The real you will shine through at some point or another. And if someone has believed you to be someone else, they end up feeling betrayed and angry.

This week: Experiment with being yourself. Let your guard down and express your authentic self in at least two different settings. Notice what happens. Do you have more fun? Is there less pressure? How do others accept you? Notice how good it feels when someone accepts you for your "real self."

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people reach their goals and overcome the obstacles that block their dreams. Sometimes those obstacles are the ways we sabotage ourselves, pretending to be someone we are not. For more information about her services and some free resources, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .