Make Your Life Count

"Every man dies. Not every man really lives."

~William Wallace

At some point or another, we will all die.  It is an inevitable part of life.  But we can choose how to live.  We can live fully and meaningfully, or we can drift through life until it ends.  To live a meaningful life allows you to make a difference in your life and those around you.  If you are not sure what your life's purpose is, you can create it.

This week:  Think about the mark you would like to leave on the world.  How would you like to be remembered after you die?  Write a eulogy about how you want to be remembered.  Now begin to take a step toward creating that sort of life.  Reach out to others.  Make your life count.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and certified trainer.  She is the author of an audio CD/workbook program:  Discover Your Life's Purpose: 7 Steps to a Life of Meaning & Authenticity.  Her mission is to catalzye, facilitate and support personal growth and transformation for people who want to live with greater meaning.  For more information go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .

"Look at life through the windshield, not the rear-view mirror."

~Byrd Baggett

Too many times we are focused on things that happened to us in the past. It is as if we are looking at life through the rear-view mirror. When you focus on the past, you remain stuck in the past. If you want to get unstuck and move ahead toward your goals, you need to look where you are going. Focusing on where you want to go helps you create the circumstances that carry you toward your goal.

This week: Imagine you are taking a trip someplace you have always wanted to go. Now, imagine as you move toward that destination, you are looking behind you. Imagine taking this trip totally focused on where you have been. Can you even get to your destination when you are focused in another direction? Now, imagine aiming for a place right in front of you. Move toward it. Look in the direction you want to go, not in the direction you have already been. Now imagine how much easier it will be to reach your GOALS if you focus on what is ahead of you, rather than what has happened in the past.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people overcome the obstacles to their goals with her solution-focused approach. She specializes in helping clients overcome "emotional clutter"--those negative emotions and limiting beliefs that often keep us stuck in the past. For more information and free resources, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ or http://www.emotionalclutter.com/

Whatever You Worry About Won't Last

"If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today."

~E. Joseph Cossman

This is so true. We expend lots of energy worrying about things that never come true. Anxiety happens when you are focused on the outcome you DON'T want to see happen. When you are focused on those "what ifs" or "catastrophes in waiting," you don't allow yourself to enjoy the present moment. When you are focused on all those things you are worried about, you miss out on the opportunity to CREATE the outcome you would really like!

This week: Take one of the things you are worried about--a specific thing--and imagine that it has been resolved. Allow yourself to imagine yourself going out into the future 24 hours after the successful resolution of the thing you are worried about. Now notice what happens to the anxiety or worry. If you have followed the instructions for this, it should be gone.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people move beyond obstacles to their success and find the tools and resources needed to create a magnificent life. Want more information? Go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ and check out free resources you can use.

Learn From The Mistakes of Others As Well As Your Own

Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.

~Eleanor Roosevelt

We all make mistakes, and the key is to learn from them. The good news is that you don't have to wait until YOU make the mistake in order to learn. You can learn from the mistakes that others make as well. In NLP, we say, "There is no failure, only feedback." From each mistake or failure, there are lessons to be learned. You don't need to let mistakes devastate you, just learn from them. And let the mistakes of others guide you as well.

This week: Look back on the mistakes you made last week. What did you learn from them? Think about the mistakes that those around you made as well. What can you learn from those experiences? How can you use your mistakes and those of others to help you in the future? Write down your learnings.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people overcome obstacles to their success and happiness. She specializes in helping her clients learn from their mistakes and move on to a more satisfying, magnificent life. Linda is a certified trainer in Neuro Linguistic Programmer (NLP) and teaches her clients easy ways to reach their goals. For more information go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/

Desire Is Not Enough for Success

"Desire is the key to motivation, but it's the determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek."

~Mario Andretti

Although the desire to have success is very important, it is not enough. In order to succeed you have to be determined to succeed. You have to be committed to doing your very best for as long as you need to do it. Despite how much we would like it to happen, success usually doesn't happen overnight. It is the result of hard work, perserverence, commitment and determination. Your goal has to be compelling enough for you to commit yourself to doing what it will take.

This week: Take a good look at one of your goals. Is it compelling enough for you? Or is it just something on your "to do" list? Are you willing to put in the time, energy and money to make it happen? Are you determined to achieve it? Are you committed to an unrelenting pursuit of excellence to achieve it? If not, consider reworking your goals. The type of goals you set and your willingness to commit to them can make all the difference in your success.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach, trainer and expert in helping people achieve goals they had not thought possible. Her solution focused approach, more than 30 years of experience, and her knowledge of the technologies of change allow her clients to make rapid progress towards their goals without wasted time and effort. Get more information at http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ and download a free audio class "Banish the Goal Setting Gremlins and Reach Your Highest Potential."

To Succeed You Must Overcome Self Doubt

"If you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can't accomplish it. You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through."

~ Former First Lady Rosalyn Carter

What we believe guides what we are able to achieve. When you doubt yourself, you plant the belief that you cannot accomplish it. The key to success is the belief that you WILL succeed--because you will do EVERYTHING necessary to make that success happen.

This week: Think about what you would like to accomplish if you believed in yourself enough to make it happen. What are you "tough enough" to follow through on, no matter what it takes? What are you absolutely committed to? Until you know what you absolutely, positively MUST accomplish no matter what, you won't have the determination necessary overcome those doubts and make it happen.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people achieve goals they might not have thought even possible by using her solution focused approach. She helps people overcome limiting beliefs and negative emotions--what she calls "emotional clutter"-- to create enough space in life for success, happiness and greater meaning.

Living Your Potential Requires Courage

It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.

~e.e. cummings

It takes courage to accept your calling and move into living fully and purposefully. Who you really are encompasses your personality, your spirit, your life purpose and your soul. Growing up and becoming who you really are means no longer hiding your potential. It means actualizing all that you are capable of being. It means doing all you are capable of doing. It means living fully and authentically.

This week: Consider what your life would be like if you had the courage to live your potential, to live fully. If you embraced your purpose and calling, how would your life be different? How would the lives of others be different? What would you accomplish if you knew you could not fail? Now consider what you need in order to have this sort of courage. What resources could help you? Breathe deeply and imagine yourself having all the resources you need. You do, you know.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach, trainer and expert at helping people find the resources to transform their lives. She specializes in helping people uncover their own inner resources for achieving the goals of their dreams. Using a solution focused approach, she helps her clients let go of negative emotions and limiting beliefs that can crush their success and happiness. For more information, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .