Choose to Believe in Your Value

"You are always a valuable, worthwhile human being, not because anybody says so, not because you're successful, not because you make a lot of money, but because you decide to believe it and for no other reason."

~ Wayne Dyer

When you believe in yourself, you unleash the power to create, to achieve, to inspire.  You unleash your own potential and authenticity, simply by choosing to believe that you are valuable and worthwhile.  When you do that, you share a great gift with the world. Why would you choose to believe anything else?

This week:  When you are assailed by doubt or by negative beliefs about yourself, challenge those.  Remember they are just things you are choosing to believe.  Ask yourself  "Is this really true?"  When you feel tempted to depend on other people (no matter how near and dear they are to you) or external measurements to define your worth, challenge that.  No one except you and God really knows you and your worth.  Choose for this week to believe in your value.  Don't worry, it won't make you arrogant.  When you believe in your worth, you have more to offer.  Focus this week on what you have to offer the world, just because you are worthwhile.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people overcome negative emotions and limiting beliefs from the past--what she refers to as "mental clutter."  She utilizes the Life Moments Makeover System to help people make transformational changes quickly.  For more information about her system for rapid change and improved self esteem, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .

Share Your Love With Special Friends

“I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.


I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.


I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;

I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can’t help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.


I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple;
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.


I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good
And more than any fate
Could have done
To make me happy.


You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.
Perhaps that is what
Being a friend means,
After all.”


~ Roy Croft

This is one of my favorite poems.  I discovered it college and like to share it with those special people who touch my life in such meaningful ways.

This week:  Think about someone in your life with whom you would like to share these sentiments. They may not be your spouse or lover, or even someone you know very well.  They can be one of those special people who have touched your life and made a difference.  Reach out to them and let know what they mean to you.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people discover inner resources that can transform their lives.  For more information, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/

The Expression of Your Power Requires Relaxation

"Your power is proportional to your ability to relax."

~ David Allen

When you have the ability to relax, you allow yourself to replenish.  You build an environment that nurtures your power and your creativity.  You allow yourself to reflect, to think more clearly, and to relate to others more authentically.  You are able to relax you can really allow yourself to be most yourself--and in doing that, you allow your power to shine through.

This week:  Take time to relax each day.  Allow yourself to center yourself, to escape cares and worries just for a short period of time.  Make sure you allow yourself at least 20 minutes when you can focus on your breathing, focus on turning within.  Acknowledge your wise self.  Acknowledge what is right in your world.  Do this each day for at least a week.  Notice at the end of the week how you feel.  Do you feel more connected to YOURSELF?  Has there been an increase in your calmness?  Acknowledge yourself for taking the time to connect with yourself through this relaxation. 

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people maximize their results.  She utilizes step by step approaches to make complicated things feel easy, and specializes in helping people develop their inner resouces for transformaton.  For more information on her approach, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/

The Real Key to Authenticity

 "Become who you are."

~Nietzsche

We hear a lot about being "authentic."  The key to authenticity is to be who you really are.  So many people put on masks to disguise who they really are with their coworkers, peers and even with their loved ones.  All of us have a core identity composed of who we really are and are intended to be.  To "become who you are" you must allow that real you to peek out and begin to act in ways that are congruent with that "you."  This means living in accordance to your values, sharing who you are with others--warts and all.  Often it means living in accordance with your life's true purpose, even if it isn't the popular way of doing things.  As you become who you really are, you really begin to live authentically and people will be attracted to that authenticity.

This week:  Think about who you really are.  Think about what you've tried to hide about yourself from the world.  Just for this ONE WEEK, practice being who you really are with at least one person.  You can pick a complete stranger or someone close to you.  Notice how it feels when the mask is down.  Do you feel vulnerable?  Uncertain?  Fearful of rejection?  Or do you feel free?  Unleashed?  Maybe a combination of all of these feelings?  Notice the reaction of that person to you being who you really are.  At the end of the week evaluate whether you chose wisely the person to share yourself with authentically.  What would you do differently next time?  Use this information to make decisions about trusting others with "the real you."  

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and trainer at the Inner Resource Center in Maryville, TN.  She is an expert at helping people uncover their authentic selves, including discovering their life's purpose.  She specializes in helping people make transformational changes quickly through intensive break-through sessions.  For more information about resources to help you make big changes in your life, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/  



Use The Power of Your Thoughts and Move Beyond Negativity

"If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought."

~Peace Pilgrim

When we are caught up in negative thinking, we create that negative experience for ourselves.  We end up feeling anger or discouraged or hopless or despairing.   Those negative thoughts become our assessment of our experience and take on a reality before we even realize it.  Our brains try to find what we are thinking about, so if you are thinking about how bad things are, your brain tries to find you more bad things.  That isn't to say that you need to be a Pollyanna to the point of delusion.  There is  a middle ground where you can acknowledge that things are not the way you want them--yet.  At the same time you can hold out the vision of how you would like it to be (expressed as positive thoughts).  When you focus on the outcome you want, you help create the power to make it so.

This week:  Focus on your thoughts.  Notice when your thoughts are negative.  Change the negative thought to something more positive, more in line with what you want you your outcome to be.  Do this all week and notice how it feels. 

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and trainer at the Inner Resource Center, LLC in Maryville, TN.  She helps people find the resources to help them transform their lives.  For more information go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .

Simple Kindness to Yourself Can Transform You

"Simple kindness to one's self and all that lives is the most powerful transformational force of all."

~Dr. David Hawkins

When you are kind to yourself and others, you connect with the energy of the universe in a way that has the power to change yourself and others.  Essentially, you open yourself up to the possibility of what you and they can become.  The kindness denotes acceptance of yourself and others on a spiritual level.  Even if you (or they) are not the way you would like to be yet, being kind to youself sends the universe the message that "I deserve."  And when you believe that you deserve good things, you can make them happen.

This week:  Practice being kind to yourself.  Stop yourself from those overly critical thoughts.  They are not helpful. Acknowledge that even though you may not be where you want to be, you are capable and deserving of having the life you want.  Acknowledge and appreciate the things you do.  Practice being kind to others.  Reach out to people you know and to complete strangers.  Talk to that person in line at the grocery store.  Smile.  Call someone you haven't talked to in a while.  Let people know what you appreciate about them. Cherish other living things.  Observe and be at ease with animals.  Appreciate plants. Notice the feelings you have about doing these things.  Notic the transformation that these action begin to bring. That is what it is all about.

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert in helping people transform their lives quickly through her intensive break-through sessions utilizing the Life Moments Makeover System-TM.  She has created a number of self-help resources as well.  For more information go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ . 

Keep Your Focus on the Main Thing

"The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing."

~Stephen Covey

The New Year presents an opportunity for us to DREAM BIG and to create what we most want.  But to do that we must keep our focus on what is the "main thing."  What is most important in order to create the life we want?  What must we do to keep focused on the main thing and not be distracted by the bright shiny objects that surround us.  Our lives are full of opportunities and we must decide which of them most suit the outcome we really want.  When you keep the main thing the main thing you can most easily and effectively pursue that outcome.

This week:  Decide what is "the main thing" for you some time period--this month or this quarter or this year.  What do you really want and need in order to create what you most want?  Write it down and post it where you will see it several times during the day.  Keep your focus on this main thing during each day for this week.  At the end of the day, evaluate how well you did.  If you need to do something to keep your focus on the main thing, determine what that is and make adjustments.  At the end of the week, decide if you want to continue this exercise for another week.  How many weeks will it take for you to have made the main thing the main thing?

Linda Pucci, Ph.D. is a psychologist, life coach and expert at helping people make big changes in their lives.  She specializes in helping people determine what is most important in their lives and to rapidly move beyond self-imposed limitations by using her toolbox of solution-focused techniques.  For more information and to find resources to help you make changes quickly, go to http://www.innerresourcecenter.com/ .